Dr John's Life Rules for Success!

Rules for Success




I have spent a lot of time studying people I find inspiring. My mentors if you will.   People I look up to.  I wanted to know what makes them tic, how they become who they are and how they overcome adversity.  Here are the common threads I have discovered.

1. Have a desire to win! Win! Not at all cost. But WIN! Be a winner. Think, Act and Talk like a Winner! That means at times, you must learn accept loss and understand why. How you were not prepared. Or maybe the other person was just better than you. You still come away a better person for the experience. This will lead to becoming a winner. This is the foundation to be a winner! OODA loop! (Observe, Orientate, Decide, Act). It is a constant state of evaluation and making corrective change/action for improvement. It is Non-Attachment to the outcome and complete focus on "the moment". Focused on being the very best you can. A willingness to change put the Ego aside and complete the mission and WIN! Never forget it’s not about "them". It never has been. In the end it has always been about you! Being the very BEST you, you can BE! It all starts in your mind first!

2. Think Big!  Dream Big! Shoot for the Stars! Grand Ideas! Nothing is impossible! Go for the highest goal and the best out comes! Always challenge yourself to be the best and go after the dream! It is better to fall short and learn from it than to go for the easy low hanging fruit! Go For IT! ! Envision your success daily!

3. Find Joy!  Always look for the joy in what you are doing.  Make it fun and exciting.  Be happy in what you are doing.  Even in the mundane.

4. Be Competitive. No need to be a jerk about it. Push your limits as well as those around you. Be the positive influence. Find your 20 X. Meaning you can do 20 times more than you think you can. Set the bar high for others to follow. Out work everyone! Feed the courage Wolf. Prove the Nay Sayers wrong! Stop looking for the Finish line. Endurance is your mind set! Never give up! Never give in. Failure is only found in Quitting!

5.  Find Inspiration in what you are doing.  The pure pleasure of just doing! Sharing your life and serving others!  Whatever you do make what you are doing inspiring. Not just for you but for your Team and those around you!  Inspire those you have the pleasure to love and serve!  Inspiration is the energy of Life!

6. Structure things your way.  Make whatever you are doing yours! Take ownership!  Own your Life! Build yourself up! Whatever you Make it yours!

7.  Find Excitement in what you are doing. Bring excitement!  This will motivate you and those around you!

8.  Work with LIKE minded people.  Surround yourself with the very BEST!  You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with.  Make sure you share similar values and do not be intimidated if they are  better, stronger, richer and smarter than you.  They have talents you do not.  You have Talents they do not have! Remember you have something to offer! You complement each other.  Synergy! 2+2 =6 type of relationships!  The whole is greater than the sum of its parts!  It’s one of the foundations of a winning TEAM!

9. Get better.  Always striving for improvement!  A desire to be better each day, better than you were the day before.  Always looking for ways to be learn, think smarter work better,  simplify.  When you are getting better at something it is a lot more fun!

10. Care Deeply!  Care about what you are doing!  Care about your family, friends, the people you work with, your TEAM! Most important care about you and make selfcare a daily practice.   Give of yourself.  Have an Unselfish mind se.   Giving of time, money and self.   Loose the scarcity mind set.  Never stop caring!

11. Make life interesting.  Keeping yourself interesting and interested. Keep the interest of people around you. Be curious, Inquiring and Seeking new and wonderful things! Keeping life interesting keeps the spirit alive and creates positive energy! Giving momentum! Moving the mission forward toward the targeted goals.

12.  Make life Entertaining. Entertainment brings excitement and Fun.  Light  Heartedness.  Eases the work and pain.  Helps others embrace the Suck.  Builds a  desire to be a part of something good!   People find value in things that keep their interest.  It brings likeminded people together. It brings  Joy!  Be Fun!  Crack a Joke during the roughest of times!  Make those around you smile when they should be crying or thinking about quitting!  Share your talents.  Sing when it’s time to sing! Dance when it’s time to dance!  Laugh!  Just  laugh!  Bring comfort to those in pain or suffering.  You Got This Mind Set!  Pull others up!  By making light in tough times you add new energy!  Attitude of Gratitude and Strong Positive Mental Attuited! 

13. Be Genuine.  Live by set core values. People need to trust who you are and what you stand for. Be honest. Be kind. Have accountability to yourself and others. Show up Every Day! People need to be able to count on you. Be consistent in your values. Learn from mistakes. Make changes to correct mistakes and work to be better each day. Strive to be better than the day before. Do not talk down on or about those not present. Defend those that can't defend themselves. Look to build up those around you. Build confidences. Build trust. Owning life mistakes and facing fears. Do what is right. Be quick to say, "I am sorry"! Be just as quick to give grace and forgiveness to others as well as yourself! You do not know what others are going through, who is suffering in silence! Be that person, the rock to lean on for those in need. Keep confidences. When a Friend (Swim buddy Team mate)/Loved (to me they are one in the same) one calls for help 24/7/365, be the one to go to their aid!

14. Be in Balance.  Mind body and spirit.  Be whole.  Be healthy!

15.  Have FUN! Just Have FUN! 

16.  Do not Judge.  It is not your job or your place.  It is not the place even if you are a religious leader, do not  to sit in judgment of anther. Leave that to GOD.  "Quick to judge, leads to anger.....slow to understand"  to quote RUSH

17.  Live your life today like it is your last.  Approach today in Awe as though it is your first!

18. Be a good listener.  You have one mouth and two ears for a reason.

19.  Live the Seattle Sea Hawks Rules:  show up on time, always have your team mates back, own your mistakes and follow the unwritten rule of unconditional love for your mates!

20.  Be Kind!


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