The "BE" List

Be Bold

Being bold means to be willing to take risks. Be willing to be vulnerable, expose while at the same time being brave and strong. Stand for something. Go for it! Turn Left in a Right turning tribe. A willingness to be different. When You fail/fall get right back up and learn from your mistakes. Overcoming or facing fear and anxiety. A mental attitude of Fear(less) or fearing less is being Bold.

Be Charming

To Be Charming is to be first and foremost, to be Sincere. Being Charming is the ability to listen. Make others feel comfortable, safe, liked and loved. Being a Charming person work to alleviate one’s fears and anxiety. Bring a level of comfort. Work to be delightful and agreeable. To find common ground. Reflect Joy and warmth. SMILE! Polished in speech as well as appearance. Reflection of positive energy. A motivator and example for good. Use both verbal and nonverbal language to communicate kindness, love and acceptance of others. Work to build others up. Charming is being Real and Genuine to others.

Be Sharp

To Be Sharp is an ability to correctly assess and take in information through observation, listening, asking questions and applying past and current knowledge to arrive at correct solution or assessment of an issue or problem. Then propose and put into place corrective action. Move in positive direction. The ability to be unattached to preconceived out comes. An ability to recognize a negative action or wrong direction. Then take corrective action for change. Continue the RIGHT course even when it is unpopular. In other words, having a “knowing” what is right. Having the self-confidence to do what is right. With self-awareness and practice flexing this mental muscle, it will become intuitive/ instinctive.

Be Passionate

The sense of joy and excitement you have when you are doing what you love! Whatever you find yourself doing be passionate about it. You may not find yourself doing what you are truly passionate about. You may not be good at your true passions. Do your best. Have excitement and positive energy about the task at hand!

Be Generous

Have a desire and willingness to share your time, money and material things. Most important your heart!  Another mental muscle that takes exercise. As you work on it becomes an intuitive instinctive practice!

Amazing/Inspiring

Have positive energy! Believe in yourself! Go get what you want. Go after your dreams. Help others achieve theirs. Give 100%! Give positive support to others. Pull others up! Don’t put others down! Stand up for and protect those not present! Don’t gossip. Do things to help others succeed. Set the bar high. Act like the loyal friend you desire of others. Achieve greatness. Lead by example! Remain calm in Chaos. Express Gratitude. Most importantly find Joy in every moment of your life and share your love of living every second of every day! Self-care with unconditional love.

Be Happy

To smile! To bring joy! A Santa Claus Like sparkling in your eye! To make others around you feel safe, loved and most important laugh! To extrude love and warmth into the world! It’s an unforgettable positive energy that pierces your heart with excitement, goodness and pure Joy! It’s family, friends and it’s all about the experience! Its free! It’s a choice! Choose it!!!!!!

Be Kind

To listen. To love. To give support to those you love. Aleve the pain of others. Lighten the load of those who are suffering. To show up! Let go of the need to be right. Show compassion. Forgive yourself and others. Listen to understand not to respond. Seek to serve others. Share your time. Do what is right without recognition. Seek to Shine the spotlight on your team, not yourself. Attitude of Gratitude!

Be Healthy

This is the corner of stone life. Eat fresh and whole food. Exercise regularly for cardio, strength and flexibility. Get enough sleep. Continue to learn and be mentally sharp. Make time to be spiritual and build spiritual strength and health. To be in tuned with mind body and spirit.

Be Silly

The willingness to show venerability. To not be afraid of what others may say or think. Do not take yourself to seriously. Smile. Laugh until it hurts. Go with the flow. Most important have fun even when times are hard, and you must embrace the “suck”. In those dark moments smile, laugh and find humor and Joy to lift yourself and others!

Be Sexy

A present state of mind as well as your physical appearance. Dress nice. Dress for Success! Smell nice. Talk nice. Act nice. Look your best! Make it a daily practice working on your physical appearance. Exercise and eat right. Get enough sleep. As we age, we can still maintain a healthy sexy body. Keep your body and mind sexy! If you have “let yourself go”, change. Start exercising every day. Do cardo, strength and flexibility training. Daily grooming. Shave, primp and prep. Again, do your best to look, act and be the very best version of yourself! Have a daily Breathing and Yoga practice. Do Meditation to calm and focus your mind. During your meditation, practice Envisioning positive emotional as well as physical experiences between you and Lover. Show warmth and kindness. Give the grace of forgiveness to yourself and your Lover. Love without condition. Have an unpredictable positive energy! Be spontaneous! Show up unexpected! Be creative! Do nice and unexpected things. Send out signals that your Lover is special and a turn on. Be a turn on to your lover. Leave your Lover notes expressing gratitude to find as they go through their day! Send a surprise text of love and gratitude. Call and check in! Leave hints of things to come. Talk dirty to your lover. Bring by surprise Drink or Treat to your Lover at work. Be Playful and FUN! Be adventurous and willing to let go. Get out of your comfort zone! Try new things! Do not forget to Flirt! Listen to your lover. Make it your mission to learn your Lovers turn ons  and turn offs. What they like and not like. Learn How they want to be spoken to and how they want to be approached and touched. Then respond to their desires! Learn your Lovers Love Language and speak it! Take the time to study your partner. Understand their desires, their dreams and their passions. Go to your Lovers University. Earn your degree. Work Daily to apply what you have learned and continue to learn. Keep your Lover guessing! Have no preconceived expectations. In other words, set the tone of “Expect the unexpected” within the relationship! Plan a get away! Go out of your way to serve the one you love. Talk nice about your Lover to others. Communicate you are excited to share your life with your Lover. Work hard at developing a deep closeness and bond that only comes with long term intimacy and commitment.

Be Joy

Show up! Be happy! Look for solutions. Accept failure as a chance to do and be better. Do not take away from other achievements! Celebrate the wins of others! Love yourself as well as others. Pass no judgment. Have a true knowing things always work out. Life is good! Service to others brings joy! Joy is peace. Joy is resolution of the past, living in the present and having excitement for the future! Live life in the here and now!

Be Love

The emotional energy that allows forgiveness. Over looks faults. We are born with the ability to love. It is the strongest and most motivating of all emotions. It a positive force of nature! It relieves pain. It’s the same life source/force energy that pumps my heart that pumps your heart. The only emotion we need in our lives to survive! To give your physical and emotional energy without condition or expectation. It drives you to overcome, persevere, embrace the “suck” and be your very best self! It is the “why” you never leave your swim buddy behind......Love. It brings peace. God’s Greatest Gift is Love!

Be Quiet

Stop. Live in the  moment frame by frame. Be in tune with your emotions. Fill you heart with love and peace. Do not respond to the negative. Take deep a breath and breathe. Listen to your sole. Close your eyes. Slow down your thoughts. Focus on those you love. Enjoy and have Joy for the moment. Experience the feeling of gratitude. Be in tune to your surroundings. The sensation on your skin. The wonderful smells. The sounds of Nature. Take in the internal silence. Ignore distractions. Most importantly Slow life down. Enjoy the moment. Savor the moment! No negative emotions. Just take it in!

Be Peace

Bring to any situation a since of calm, Warmth, and total Self-confidence. The ability to change negative emotions to positive ones. To change the internal as well as the external environment to a calm positive flow state of energy. A place of mindfulness. A deep spiritual connection to your internal and external surroundings. All your senses are in tune and dialed in. A state of rest that you experience Comfort, Joy and happiness all at once. A Knowing all is well!

Be In tune with your inner music

Do Not Die with your Music Still In you!  What is it I am here to do! To Be? To achieve?  Am I living true to myself and expectations? Am I living the life I want?  The life I dream to live? The life God sent me here to live? Or am I living the life others expected of me and defined by others for me? Do not die with your music still in you!  Live your love of life defined by you!  Not defined by others! Ask yourself Ask yourself What if? Then ask yourself Why NOT?!? Then say Yes, Yes, I Can!  Then say, "I GOT THIS!"  Get it done! When you do this, the answer is "I am so Grateful I did that!".  Stop JUST showing up in life! Life is a journey, a blessing, an opportunity to be your best self! You have been given the opportunity to LIVE! So, the question is What if? What if I start living? Face the FEAR Wolf! Start BEING-ACTING ALIVE! ASK THE QUESTION WHAT IF?  Then do it!  Fail forward fast!  Get back up and fail/fall.  Get Back up again and  again. And AGAIN!!!  Just never ask what if I fail? Or say I can't!

Be Present in the Moment

Listen to those you are with. Put down your electronic device. Look people in the eye when communicating. Repeat back what others are saying. Show interest in others. Learn their joys interests and fears. Close your monkey mind. Listen to hear and understand NOT to respond. Echo back what others say to gain clarity and understanding. Seek first to understand the seek to be understood. Sometimes it is better to be Kind than right. Share the moment. Be there in mind body and spirit.

Be the Hero not the Zero

We all know the zeros: the dementors, the nay Sayers. Those that pull us down. Suck the Life out of you! Always have the negative sky is falling attitude. To be the Hero one must be the light of day! The positive solution. The one to be unattached! The one with a knowing all will work out. The hero is supportive to others. Gives a hand of support. Makes supportive comments. I am here for you! I got your back! I will not leave you behind. If you are in trouble anywhere in the world and you call for help, 24/7/365, the Hero will come for you! One of the Seattle Sea Hawks rules of success is "Have your team mates back no matter what!" Bring a since of calm not chaos. Be the solution to the problem not the fuel to make things worse. Be unselfish. Be Superman/Wonder Woman! We will get through this! Send thank you notes to someone recognizing the positive impact they had on you. Calling a friend in need. Doing something nice anonymously. Show up and lend assistance when it is needed without being asked. Being in tune with those around you. Be ready to help at any time. Take the time! Give the time! It's Service to one another.

Be Brave

When the going gets tough Smile! Know it may be tough or painful. Believe in yourself. Know it will get better! Be strong! Face your Fears! Lean on your Team mates, Friends, Family! Know they have your back! Live Fear(less). Stand up for what you know is right. Have faith. Have an internal Knowing you are not alone. Ask yourself "if I were to worry would it help?". The answer is no! All the worry or anxiety in the world will not help! Embrace "The SUCK"! Breathe. Visualize Success. Establish goals not matter how small. Achieve them. Have a Positive Mental attitude and Say to yourself "I've got this!"

Be Willing

Say yes. Or say no. Be clear!  The questions to ask yourself are: Are you          ALL  in? Or Just interested? Or not interested at all? Does it fit your Ethos? Does it meet your FITS(Fit, Importance, Simplicity, Simple)?  Bottom line if you say yes, you are saying you are in and willing! Help where ever you can.  Have a Positive Mindset ! Stand by your friends, family and team mates! Give of your time and money! Show up and be present when you agree to do so. Do the work!  “The Key to Happiness is SERVICE to others” Dr. K Hicks.  Say what you are going to do, then do what you say! Happy Heart!  Full of Joy!

Be on Time

Sounds simple RIGHT? This is one of the rules for success for the Seattle Sea Hawks. Everyone must show up on time to work, meetings, work outs or appointments. Why? It shows respect to the other person for their time. Time is the most valuable commodity. It is nonrenewable resource. It is limited. So be on time. Timing or be on time can also have other meanings. Like in football, the timing of route by receiver. Timing in relationships. Showing up in another person’s life at the right time. Saying the right thing or wrong thing at the right time. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Be on time has all types of meanings and consequence's and rewards. This is a hard one. Timing and being on time take practice self-discipline and self-control and respect for yourself and others.

Be Competitive

The desire to be better. Be better today that yesterday. This is more with yourself than someone else. This competitive energy keeps you young and fun! It keeps life interesting. Be unattached to the outcome. Be more in tuned with the experience! Learn from it! Get better because you competed, finished what you started!  Get out there and do it! Winning is the icing!  The feeling of the Win  it only lasts for a very short time and you must move on! “Keep Moving Forward” Lance Armstrong.

Be of Excellence and Quality

There not need for a lot of Things. Seek out is quality of Things. Buying something on sale or of lessor quality to save money most of the time leads to spending more money and time in repairs of the junk. Eventually you end up  buying the higher quality item any way. To save money and more important time, spend a little more money and get quality the first time. This is true for just about anything.  Whether it’s an item or an experience.  Seek out excellence in music, food, books, friends, professional colleagues and experiences. Life is to short not to surround yourself with the BEST.  Enjoy what you have. It may not be a lot. Make sure it is the best.

Be Entertaining

Bring Joy! Bring Fun! Share your talents. Sing when it’s time to sing! Dance when it’s  time to dance! Laugh when it’s time to laugh! Bring comfort to those in pain or suffering.

Be in Balance

To be in balance or have balance is to be able to recognize when you are spending too much time or energy on one aspect of life. Getting off course.

The Unbeatable Mind Coaching and Training teaches the 5 Mountains: Physical, Emotional, Mental, Intuition, Kokoro (Holistic). Each mountain must be in balance with the other.

This practice builds a strong Mind (mental toughness, sharpness, wit) Body (strength, health) and Spirit (calmness, peace , deep insight)

Take time, focus on the spiritual mental and physical aspect of life. Focus on each of the 5 Mountains each day. Morning routines and evening reflection.

Be Interesting

Start by showing interest in others. Ask questions about their interests and what makes people tick. Seek deep connection with others. Interesting people are connectors. When you know you are going to meet someone new for the first time, do some recon on what they like. Learn about them. Study. So, when you meet you can talk intelligently about what they like. I learned this from a mentor of mine. He would read persons he was about to meet CV.  He would then learn about one or two of the persons hobbies. Google it. Be ready to talk about what is important to that person. Interesting people are well rounded. Well studied in the arts and science and have an open mind. Interesting people are good communicators. Most important they are good listeners. Interesting people are open to new experiences. Interesting people are adventurous and seek challenges. They are humble. Kind. Share the spotlight. Interesting people know how to make others feel comfortable, at ease. They are great story tellers. Mostly, they live fearless! Look for opportunities to have fun, laugh and overcome challenges. Interesting people are not Posers. They live life full throttle! They never stop being inquisitive, exploring and asking questions. A constant state of learning.

Be Respectful

Others may not agree with you. Treat them as though you would want to be treated. Listen. Be calm. Learn from them. Do not degrade or make them fell less than you because of their views. They are worthy of your attention. Give people space. Do not talk bad about others or put people down. Stand up for those not present. Be quick to forgive and slow to judge. Only speak if it’s true, it is wise, it is positive, and it comes from a place of love. Be respectful of feelings, emotions, opinions, time, leaders, parents, friends, strangers and those you love the most. This comes through a willingness to practice acceptance, service, grace and love of self and others!

Be Unattached

It is the space in between the setting of a target and the outcome that matters most. As you work towards your target/goal you Learn. Gain focus. You have wins. You fall. Being bound to expectations and unwillingness to practice the principles of the OODA Loop (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act, a constant state of evaluation reflection and quick corrective action towards mission success) can lead you off course. Leading to stress. Pain. Unhappiness. An Unhealthy physical, mental and emotional states. Expectations can be resentments in embryo. Allowing the embryo to grow can become full resentments taking you off course and destroying all you work for. Negative thought loops or patterns the continue circle in your head. Bring you down. Losing sight of what is important. This is true Particularly when working on the Emotional and Intuitional Mountain s. Remember there are no justified resentments. By being Unattached, you have flexibility and freedom to change course. No regrets. No second guessing. Usually achieving something even greater than the original target or goal. Mission success!

Be Alive

Live life! Enjoy it! Take every opportunity to experience life! Drink it in! Get out of your comfort zone! If you screw up Own, it! The third rule of success for the Seattle Sea Hawks for success! Make changes to do better and be better! But live and be alive! It may hurt but at least you know you are still in the game! Breath, Laugh, Cry! Most important Love! Love yourself love your family! Love your friends! Love your life! Get out there and Live!

Be Honest

Tell the truth. Be honest with your dealings. Have integrity. So many people today including institutions (Church/Religion is the worst followed by Government/Politicians, and Companies) are dishonest in their dealings with us. If we are going to change our environment or country or our world if you will, we must change from within. Hold our own feet to the fire. Be able to look in the mirror and the person looking has values. Tell the truth. Be honest. When you are wrong or make a mistake OWN IT! Say to yourself I was wrong. Do what you need to do to make it right. Apologies are good for your sole. Make changes in your life so you do not do that again. Stop justifying what you do is right even though it is wrong by saying the other person is doing it so then I am OK in what I am doing even if it goes against our Core Values. Stop it. I will change myself, my home and my circle of influence. This is the only way to fix the problem that are tarring apart our world. It is simple. Be honest in your dealings. It is called Charter! It starts being honest with yourself.

So, what does it mean to Just Be?  It starts by how you talk to yourself and how you explain your actions. to yourself. Self-talk and thought are key to your actions. It is all the above working all at once. Dynamic and ever changing! What you think about is how you will become. The precursor to every action is a thought! Once you understand this you start to become very careful about what your think about! Feed the aspects of your core values that make you a better person. Starve the Fear and the bad ones by not spending precious time on the negative.