Charming






 Be Charming

Think Sincere. Charming is the ability to listen. Make others feel comfortable, safe, liked and loved. Alleviate one’s fears and anxiety.  Delightful and full of positive energy. Seek common ground. Reflect Joy and warmth. SMILE! Polished in speech as well as appearance. A motivator.  The habit of being a example for good. Use both verbal and nonverbal language to communicate kindness, love and acceptance of others. Work to build others up. The action of self love, acceptance and genuine toward others.
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